Recently a friend of mine went through a break-up. Needless to say it was a very painful process. (I am of the opinion that breaking of hearts very often turns out to be far more painful and dramatic than it ought\/ deserves to be). So coming back to my friend, he went through a miserable two months. The memories kept coming back, entire days were spent mourning in his room, there was no energy to do any kind of work, no other friends were good enough \u2014 in short life seemed to be a series of endless, painful days. I understood him well because I had gone through a heart-break too \u2014 just as dramatic as his. \u00a0While I was trying my best to help my friend get through this phase it struck me that it is all about perspectives when it comes to suffering. Some of us are far better at coping with it than others. To elaborate, here was a friend who felt his life was worthless because a girl dumped him (that too just after 6 months of dating!) And on the other hand was my maid who in the past five years that she had worked with us had had a series of far greater mishaps. She lost her father and her niece in a span of 6 months\u2014 both committed suicide. A year later she lost her brother (the one person who cared for her and helped her once in a while). She has a drunkard husband who abuses her physically and hasn\u2019t ever given her a penny. She has one son, who unfortunately following his dad\u2019s steps is an alcoholic too who instead of earning himself expects his poor mother to feed and clothe him. \u00a0She has been working as a maid since she was twelve. And now at forty she still struggles to make ends meet. But in spite of all this suffering my maid has one of the brightest and warmest smiles I have seen. She is such a happy person. Everyday is a new day for her. She moves along with the enthusiasm and innocence of a child. And I wonder from where does she get that courage and inner strength to cope with life? From where does she bring that 100 watt smile?<\/p>\n
I am puzzled at the ways of the Universe\u2026 why do some people get to suffer so much more than the others? Why the inequality? I don\u2019t have the answers yet. But what I do realize is that my heartbreak and that of my friend\u2019s is not such a big deal after all!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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