From a very long time, we have been lamenting that families are breaking, often blaming the “outside forces” for it. But let’s just step back and see what is happening, without evaluating it as right, wrong, happy or sad.
It is indeed true that the nature of communication has changed, loneliness has increased, traditional families are not sticking together, and this disruption is causing more and more people to become sad.
However, if one closely examines what is happening in relation to other forces at work, particularly, the evolution of Consciousness… one sees that more and more people are breaking conventions, realising their individuality, and seeking the Truth.. It is this larger force which is causing conventions to break, which the unit of family has protected for long. Again, nothing right or wrong about it.
But let’s understand.
The unit of family has and in fact continues to be a seat of maintaining status quo through inheritance and protection of customs. It preserves the caste, class, gender relations. The time, however, has come for discrimination on the basis of these superficial categories to stop… with individualisation, we are beginning to think and question for ourselves than rely on conventions.
Within this larger movement of the life force, the breaking of biological families is a seeming by product – of the larger move towards growing in consciousness. And indeed, it is making all of us sad. Because we feel disconnected. Because time to time we feel out of place amidst marriages full of pretensions and family dinners with soulless talks. Somewhere we have begun to feel that our loved ones are the first ones to curtail our freedom, that traditional conventions are infused with biases. And it’s making us sad, of course it will, because we deeply deeply seek connection. And if not from loved ones, whom will we seek connection with?
Well, it is only a matter of realisation that your family includes every one you know and you do not know. What seems sad is an opportunity to realise what a family actually is, how can we cultivate love, how can we realise human unity, how can we integrate the collectivism of East with the individualism of West, how can we see the larger purpose in this heartbreaking happening and make full use of it!